Interracial dating: How do you deal with friends?
Are you considering interracial dating? Are you new to an interracial relationship? If you said yes to any of the questions, some couples who have dated interracially say that their relationships tested both their mental strength and also helped them to distinguished who their true friends were, and who their biggest enemies were.
Coping with interracial dating can be very challenging. This is because there is no conventional ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to deal with the relationship. There are no defined white or black areas. This is why in most cases, interracial couples watch their friends turn out to be foes because they didn’t support their interracial dating decision. And having to get rid of someone you have always considered a friend isn’t a piece of cake job. But if you are intending to date interracially, are you ready to give up a friend who has stood beside you for five years or so, for someone whom you have known for a few months?
When parents tend not to be supportive of an interracial relationship and push you by giving you ultimatums which you refuse to comply with, you will find yourself running to your boyfriend or girlfriend for moral and social support. This can turn into an unhealthy, possessive love … one that may not turn out positively after a while. Some ultimatums present a lose-lose situation for everyone. Some friends can make things worst by telling you to consider giving up your interracial love for your parents. And such statements from friends who you expect support from bring issues.
One thing to remember is: not all friends will lend you some moral support during trying times. Some just want to get out of the sticky situation faster. The best thing to do is not to eliminate them from your life because everyone is entitled to their opinion on all matters … interracial dating not excluded. Just weigh their advice as you would any other and take what you feel is right. You need to dig deeper within yourself because the pressure can be too much for you to take and you may even start to consider quitting the relationship.
There are so many people who have already dealt with the pressure from families, friends and society and have shared this on various interracial dating sites and blogs. There are a lot of interracial support groups online. There is nothing wrong with being in an interracial relationship. What really matters is that you are in a position to focus your energy on someone whom you love dearly. Block the negative comments and advice and seek advice and help from people who agree with your interracial love.
Are you ready to with external pressure against your interracial relationship?
